Free your mind and the rest will follow! Changing your mind to transform your life.

Ok, don’t judge me for what I’m about to say, but I was obsessed with Married At First Sight Australia. Like - ob-sessed.

What can I say, I was ill, bed bound and feeling sorry for myself. I needed light/no brain cells required viewing and reality shows are a great form of escape. At first, I was just lightly entertained, but before I knew it I was hooked. Apart from the general ridiculousness in the concept of the show - I mean, marry a total stranger, seriously?! - what I didn’t account for, however, was the psychology lessons that would unfold as the series continued and to discover that what I was actually watching, was curated slices of the human mind.

Now one thing about me, is that I rarely watch tv “surface-ly”, which is to say that I am always intrigued by the deeper meanings and allegories presented in the storyline, the dramatisation, the contestant choices etc. Yes, I know that quite often it is just a case of putting bat shit crazy people together who want their 15 minutes of fame, or a storyline that has been created for a reaction, but quite often there are telltale signs of archetypal behaviours, limiting beliefs, traumas or even future predicting (I will go here another time… or maybe not, this could be a crazy I keep to myself).

Now as a person that is highly suspected of having a neuro-spicey brain aka neurodivergent, I quite often can ditch a series halfway through in search of my next dopamine hit. This series however, had me thinking about it during the day and referencing it irl to basically anyone who would listen because I was just so fascinated by it!

Watching the trauma bonding, emotional manipulation and self sabotaging of these random Australian folk, allowed me to really see the power of the mind, how perception truly shapes views on reality and how past traumas and lack of self-worth can have you destroying the thing you so desperately want or lead you down the garden path with a manipulative narcissist when everyone is telling you to run in the other direction!?!

Not dealing with your limiting internal stories can totally alter your life to the point where you can legit ruin what is actually the exact thing that you asked for because you haven’t dealt with the story that you carry in your mind. The story that tells you you are unworthy, unlovable or that the big dreams sitting inside you are for other people to live.

If allowed, these stories have space to run rampant in your subconscious thoughts, allowing them to affect your life in a very real way - by how you show up, how you communicate and what you feel deserving of.

“…managing your mental health is our real full time job.”

This then got me thinking about the true power of the mind (something I ponder on A LOT), and how it is our engine. Our job - as meat suits of the mind - is to feed it the right nourishment in order to get the best out of it. A while ago I read a line from the brilliant writer Elizabeth Gilbert from Eat, Pray, Love fame, and she said “managing your mental health is our real full time job.” and it really stuck with me because it is so true!

Think about how many thoughts race through your mind everyday. The things you justify as ok because that is what you have decided you deserve.

Learning the idiosyncrasies of the mind and how that then plays out in our tangible reality, is fundamental to creating the life you want to lead.

Don’t get me wrong, I am aware that mind management journeys are different for everyone. The depths others have to crawl through can be a lot darker and deeper then some, but that’s not to say that anyone is beyond finding peace in their mind. It is widely believed that the amount of darkness you encounter in your life is directly proportional to the amount of light you were destined to shine. I like that notion because it helps you remember that no trial or tribulation is for no reason - you were destined for greatness beyond what you can envision!

Starting the process of unpacking the thoughts that stop you from being your best self daily, is what will allow you to slowly but surely recognise when they are trying to sabotage you.

In the spiritual community, everyone is always trying to “heal to wholeness” but the fact is healing isn’t linear, healing doesn’t ever actually end. As long as you are still living, there will always be new lessons to learn, new journeys to navigate and reflect on and new shadows that will make themselves known as you cast a light on another corner of your psyche.

Some people can meditate and yoga their way out of a mental rut, whilst some people need a little help (our mycelium friends are my personal favs, they work to calm the nervous system and help connect synapses that aren’t quite firing properly). More people than we realise actually just need a good gut cleanse to rid their bodies of the parasites that live in there (quite often due to diet choices) and that are actively affecting cognitive function.

The fact is, we live in a society that perpetuates doom, gloom and scarcity, so don’t judge yourself for having thoughts of lack, it was what the system has programmed your mind to operate on. How else can they sell you the next shiny new thing if you’re actually perfectly content and living in flow?!

It’s all well and good saving cute social posts with uplifting words talking about mindfulness and manifesting in theory, but in the cold harsh light of day, when you just feel shit, your boss is pissing you off to the point where you might actually throw your computer at them, your child is screaming at you because they want to wear those shoes and not those shoes and your partner is asking what’s to eat when they’re literallyyyy standing in front of the fridge with the door open?!! How do we bring mindfulness into being then?

We need tools. We need an arsenal of rituals that we can rely on that help us feel grounded and allows us to become the observer of the feeling so we can react to them from a place of power. There’s no toxic positivity in my camp, because I have learnt just how important it is to feel the feelings and to hear what these feelings are trying to tell you.

These lessons are as important, if not more so, than when everything is hunky dory and running smoothly. These lessons show you, in no uncertain terms where the trauma wounds are. They are how we spiritually and mentally evolve.

As we move into this next energetic phase on earth, the shadows that we carry cannot come with us. There is no space for them. As the collective frequency on earth increases, our vibration needs to also. And that is what we do in mindset work. We start to untangle ourselves from the anchor of society that insists on pulling us down and keeping us stuck in the toxic, individual, rat-race society.

So what are a few of the rituals you can start building your spiritual armour with?

1. STOP

My guaranteed first and most effective reaction is to just stop. Stop the spiralling, stop the thoughts and take 3-5 deep breaths. This immediately resets your whole nervous system so you can think clearer and see things as they actually are. With this newly found clarity, quite often a solution that is the most aligned for that moment comes to you.

2. OBSERVE

Another ritual that I like, is to observe what is going on here. Observe my feelings. Why am I reacting like this? What has this triggered? What is the core of my feelings here?

When you take the time to rationalise the situation and take the emotion out of it, you start to see where this emotion is coming from. Quite often it is not the situation itself that has you wanting to lose your shit, it is how it made you feel because of a past experience.

You’ll be surprised at how common it is that the thing that you think is annoying, is actually something very different but this situation has triggered it.

3. SAY

Find a mantra that you resonate with, or create one.

One of the most powerful tools that helped me was adopting the mantra: everything is always working out for me.

At one point at the beginning of my reawakening, I got into the habit of listening to Abraham Hicks' recordings on YouTube every morning. It was amazing for changing my thought perspective and gave me the strength to get through quite a few days!

I really enjoyed her rampages and the words "Everything is working out for me", really stuck with me and became what I would chant to myself continuously throughout the day or any time doubts about something would surface or I felt myself fall back into a limiting belief.

It was a game-changer! Just uttering the words was like a vibrational power up and it would immediately reroute my perspective and imbue me with the additional courage I needed.

As I always say: words are spells, our words are our wands and the words we tell ourselves become part of our subconscious. If you program your mind to always expect things to work out for you, they inevitably do. At the very least, it gives you the courage to make decisions that you might ordinarily second guess yourself -decisions that take you closer to the vision you hold for your life.

4. MOVE

I love music and dancing - like, I’m the weirdo walking down the street doing a jig with my headphones on vibe - whenever I’m in a funk, I put music on. This act of moving my body shakes up the vibrations in the most literal sense. Emotions are stored in our hips and pelvic muscles so not only does dancing physically help to release these emotions, but moving your body connects you to the present moment and it’s FUN AF!! Sometimes we forget to add joy into our lives and this is a great way to remember that it's not that deep. We can figure out whatever we need to.

You might notice a pattern here…what all of these rituals have in common is that they bring you back to the present moment. Why? Because the present moment is all we have. When we are in the future or the past we are projecting or regressing. The power is in the now, the now is all there is and everything is ok in the now.

If you take it back down to basics - you’re alive, you’re healthy, you have a roof over your head and more often than not, at least SOME money in the bank. In the words of Marie Foleo - Everything is figurout-able.

Taking yourself back to these basics and perspective, allows you to be able to think clearly and create space for solutions to come to you.

Whether we know it or not, times have changed and we are currently in a time of awakening. This shift is forcing us to find our true identity. As a living spirit, cultivating a consistent ritual practice helps connect us to a deeper world. Rituals attune you back to your natural state of being. Living a life of ritual gets you to a space where you’re always connected to source. This connection can look like synchronistic events, channelled messages from others or a particular song on the radio at the perfect time. This connection is our natural guidance.

Ritual is a powerful agent for change.

With the right spiritual tools, life loses some of its harder edges and things become more manageable. We create from a space of trust and intuition, knowing that everything is working out for us.

Using things like affirmations help you to command your mind for how you want your life to be, training it to be your friend and not your enemy.

Don't give your mind room to overpower your spirit!

With love & magic

Sim xxx