Lucky Girl Syndrome - Privilege or Radical Delusion?

“Everything is always working out for me” Abraham Hicks

Lucky Girl Syndrome: privilege or radical delusion?

If you’ve been anywhere near the web in the last few months, you’ll have seen the term “Lucky Girl Syndrome” being thrown about everywhere. A term originally started on Tik Tok by creators of colour, Lucky Girl Syndrome has recently gained popularity when a video went viral of two white girls explaining their p.o.v and experience with it.

The reason I feel it is important to note that the original p.o.v was by creators of colour, is because the vast majority of the trends criticism has been along varying lines of “it’s easy for them to say”, or "this screams white privilege" or “well tell that to poor people/people who can’t afford to feed themselves" and I feel that these sentiments totally miss the original point.

I don’t personally have Tik Tok, but I was sent an Instagram post from a popular magazine by a friend and having already seen a few other social posts on it by this point, I was immediately intrigued or dare I say - excited.

Lucky Girl Syndrome is something I personally have jammed with for a while (or something similar anyway).

In fact, it changed my life.

What I immediately noticed though, was people's instant rhetoric of disbelief and the all too familiar striking blow of “reality”. As I read with what started as excitement, it quickly became disappointment and I felt my story begin to bubble up inside me, desperate to be released and told from my p.o.v as a black woman (as was the beginning of this trend in the first place), having had to go through many hardships in my life, whilst also recognising my particular privilege at times.

If for some reason you have no idea what I’m on about, Lucky Girl Syndrome is the idea that by using affirmations and mantras on a daily basis such as “everything is always working out for me, I am so lucky, I always get what I want…”, then you will indeed manifest things to go exactly as you envision them to be and things will naturally work out for you - seemingly without trying. Now, there are actually many nuances to this, but essentially, the point is that regardless of what your current reality looks like; if you declare something to be so, then that thing will come to fruition.

Lucky girl syndrome is essentially radically believing in yourself, regardless of what reality is telling you.

If you genuinely believe in your heart that things are always working out for you - they do. It really is as simple as that. Belief is an extremely useful tool that most of us massively underutilise.

Belief is a practical instrument that you can use to shape reality.

A belief is there because somewhere in your subconscious you decided it to be so. As one of my favourite sayings goes "Thoughts become things". Belief becomes fact. The good thing about this is that belief can be changed and that is the beauty of our wonderful minds.

The real caveat here is that this also involves trust and surrender. It is letting go of what your ego is telling you and trusting that what is for you, won’t pass you by.

It is releasing control of the situation and knowing that the universe has your back no matter what. Some things can come instantly and in some cases, when they don’t, it is often because we aren’t actually ready to receive the thing we think we want. There are lessons that need to be learnt and space that needs to be created for it.

Personally, I like to call this way of being Radical Delusion and believe me, it works. Why? Because there are times in your life when being radically delusional is all you have. It’s either that or you give up. You throw in the proverbial towel and say; you know what life? You win, I’m done. And then what? That’s it?!

Radical Delusion is hope.

Let me tell you, I’ve been through many stages in my life where radical delusion was all I had - hell, I’m in one of those stages now!!

From being an 18-year-old girl living in a women’s hostel after being thrown out of my mum's home. Studying to get my fashion qualification and fighting with the system to pay me income support whilst I went to college as I wanted to better my life and not just “have a baby” (as I was advised was the only way I could qualify for support), all the while being in a turbulent relationship with a volatile ex-drug addict - radical delusion was literally what kept me going every day. The unshakeable knowing, from somewhere deep within, that at some point, I would be out of this time in my life and it would all be worth it.

I could’ve easily decided that that was my fate, enshrined in the belief that I didn't deserve anything better and had a baby with him to get a council house and sit in the system for the rest of my days, because as he said, “people like us don’t get white picket fences”.

As I told him in no uncertain terms - YOU might not, but I damn sure will. Glued to my belief system and holding onto my delusion for dear life, it was at this time that I had to be radical enough in my delusion to know in my heart of hearts, that all of this would be worth it one day and I will live the dream that I see in my minds eye.

Lucky Girl Syndrome has given me every wonderful “chance” opportunity needed, at exactly the right time, to take me to the next stage of my dream.

I was “lucky” enough to meet my mentor and darling friend - Johnny Blueeyes - in Shepherd’s Bush, after “randomly” searching the internet the day before when I decided my fashion career would be better in the world of styling rather than my original choice of fashion buying.

I took the chance to be “lucky”, threw caution and my deep fear of embarrassing myself to the wind and introduced myself. From this encounter, I went on to work alongside him for many years, working on the style teams of Lana Del Rey, Sam Smith and Charli XCX, with a Dua Lipa moment thrown in there too! Seeing the signs and following my intuition allowed me to step into a styling career which has seen me work for many well-known brands and fashion houses over the years.

As I said; Lucky Girl Syndrome changed my life.

According to one particular article, “the idea that you can shape your reality is quite frankly, dangerous”.

Some go on to state that there is no science to back this up, but what we have to remember, is that Earth is a planet of vibrations and frequencies. By tuning into those frequencies and keeping your vibration high with positive affirmations and a drop of rose tint in your lenses, you can call miracles into your reality on a daily basis with seemingly little effort, as if by magic!

What we as humans call reality and hold onto so dearly, is merely an illusion that is reinforced by words and culturally sanctioned. Reality is in fact transient and subject to change upon the perception of it. That’s what I feel is the biggest issue with people not understanding Lucky Girl Syndrome, it's the thinking that what we see in this physical reality is the only thing that is real. Aside from the fact that humans only actually see 0.00035% of reality, this is where the delusion comes in, you have to believe it is real even if you can’t see it yet.

We have to know that what is here can change at any minute and that is amplified by the frequency you’re vibrating on.

Now I am not saying that bad stuff doesn’t happen. Unfortunately, that is a very real and inevitable fact of life - challenging times are the catalyst for growth. However, it is the perception of these events that is the game changer and is what will effectively enhance your Lucky Girl Syndrome status.

The commonality that I got from these articles, is that they were pissed off at these girls who seemed to only want frivolous things and were somehow using the universe as their personal credit card service. In all my years of spiritual study, the one thing I have come to understand and experience is that:

• We are inherently abundant

• We live in a benevolent universe

• Abundance is our divine right.

Source wants us to live a life of comfort, ease and beauty. It is society that has instilled in us that things must be hard in order to be deserved, that we must be cautious and fearful and that we can't ask for too much.

Nothing comes for free and money doesn’t grow on trees are idioms that are hammered into us from a young age and have become such a part of our collective consciousness, that they are regarded as fact.

Long ago, I decided to make it my lifelong quest to live a life of creativity and ease, purely because I bloody well want to! When I declared that I wanted to work less and be paid more, I was laughed at by friends, but I set the intention and made it happen regardless. Because after everything I had already been through and what I had come to believe, I knew it was my divine right that the universe was happy to oblige me with.

This is also largely about having the courage to really live the life that you want to.

It’s deciding to step out of your comfort zone and facing the fear of potential ridicule from naysayers who are too afraid to do the same.

As I walk into this new phase of facing my fear and doing it anyway, armed with all the tools I have collected along the way and on a path that feels like my divine purpose, I believe more than ever in my Lucky Girl status.

Who gets to say what’s luck and what is divine? I will take my radical delusion any day!